Thanks for the great reminder. I thinks it is time I had a "frozen peas" moment with my Mom.

Yes, mothers and sons have the same struggles. I have two sons now 17 and 15. Their dad and I divorced when they were very young for reasons I felt they did not need to know until much older. I said very little about the divorce, however dad said quite a bit-not all of which was true. The truth finally came out about 2yrs. ago. My eldest was so hurt and so ANGRY! at ME. He felt betrayed too. I explained that I did what I thought was best at the time and did not mean to hurt him so. He has been harboring these feeling towards me until about 3 weeks ago. We were talking and he said "You know Mom, all that stuff about you and Dad divorcing that made me so mad and stuff, I realized that really no matter what you had decided to do, tell us everything when we were younger or tell us only partly the truth or tell us very little until we were older-which made me so mad-IT was a lose, lose situation for you. Cause I would have been mad and hurt no matter what! And you were just doing what you thought was best for me and my brother. I THOUGHT TO MYSELF, THANK YOU JESUS!

My 30 y/o daughter is getting married7-14-2007. I have been waiting all her life for a moment when she sees me. She has learning disabilities and I stayed home and taught her for 8 years. She would not be where she is if I had not laid down my life for her. And all I have gotten so far is yelling and disrespect. Sometimes I tell myself it is a good thing I have loved her unconditionally since she was conceived.

Mothers and sons definitely have the same struggles. I have a twenty year old son and a 14 year old son. My twenty year old lives at home, goes to college full-time and works almost full-time. He and I have a wonderful relationship and always have. My 14 year old son and I clash constantly. His tone when he responds to me is rude and short most of the time. He and I are in counseling together to try to work through these and other issues. All I've ever asked him to do is to speak to me with kindness and respect. He is a Christian and we go to church regularly...he was raised in church. His dad and I divorced when he was one year old. His brother, my oldest son, was almost 7. My oldest son had both parents during his very formative years and I was a stay at home mom until my youngest son was 10 months old. My youngest son did not have the advantage of being raised by both parents under the same roof, although his dad is very, very involved in their lives. Then, I was a single mom for 8 years and then re-married when my youngest was 9 years old. It has been a very difficult adjustment for both of my sons and their step-dad and for me. In fact, it's still very difficult. Some days, I'm not sure we're going to make it. My husband and I are in counseling together over some other heart-breaking issues that occurred a year ago (he cheated on me with a co-worker). So, yes, this mother and this son definitely have struggles. Please pray for our family.

Yes at 55 yrs old with two sons ages 21 and almost 19. I can say I have had my "frozen peas moments". I carry a hand written note in my wallet from the eldest easy one, and a printed out email from the strong willed hard headed one. Yes mothers and sons can have that connection.

For the 10 years that my mother has been praising in heaven I have missed her everyday!! Yet I have friends who feel guarded in sharing their not so wonderful times with their mom's they have never been close to. Yet God is good and a legacy is left by each women he places here. My prayer is that I honor him and leave a legacy of honor not shame.

I have had a few frozen peas moments, ones with my own mom and now with one of my two daughters. My mom and I have had a roller coaster relationship, it wasn't until I had my girls that I could appreciate all the sacrifices that were made while my brothers and I were growing up. Hormones can be brutal on any mother and daughter relationship. Whether between my mom and me or me and my girls. It wasn't until my oldest daughter graduated from Penn State and got her first job as a dietician at the Children's Hospital at Johns Hopkins, that she realizes what my husband and I have sacrificed through the years to give her all the opportunities she has had in her 24 years of life. I'm waiting desperately, to have those frozen peas moments with my youngest daughter. She has a major attitude problem most of the time wih me, she is working as a youth worker at a children's home for troubled boys. She is a kind hearted person, and wants to make a difference in the lives of these boys, but it seems that there isn't a day that goes by when I don't get some kind of lip service or I'm treated like the village idiot. I'm living for the day when those frozen peas stare her down and I get that, Thanks mom or I'm so glad to have you as my mom or even, I really appreciate all you have done to help me be the person I am now. In the meantime I'll dream of the day when I hear those words come from her mouth and perhaps she'll be looking in the freezer at a bag of frozen peas. I guess I'd better put a bag of frozen peas on my store list, just in case the opportunity ever arises.

oh this would be awesome to have ...i had a similar thing happen a couple of weeks ago with my friend greg who met my mom and he had a very cool story to tell me afterwards. It made me very happy!!

I am a mother of two young adult daughters, ages 21 and 23. I wish there was enough room to share some of the traumatic events surround their flight from adolescence to teenagers and, finally, adulthood. There is no comparison between my mom and I in reference to raising children. In fact, my mom and I never truly bonded as mother and daughter should. However, I have always had a close relationship with my daughters - through happy and trouble times. In my opinion, mothers raising sons meet similar challenges as mothers raising daughters. However, the challenges may be handled differently because it is a male involved.

I have had a frozen peas moment with my daughter--several of them. And a precious moment when she saw she was becoming her mother! Yikes!

I think these "frozen peas" moments are awesome! However, in reading some of the responses, I have to make a point. I think it is important to maintain a humble demeanor while you are "waiting" for your moment. The reason I say this is because I believe that is what God wants from us at all times, not just w/ children. We must always be willing and ready to say, "I did nothing. God, it's all about You and only You." We cannot sit by and have any kind of a "me-first" attitude in saying things like, "I sacrificed" or "I laid down my life" or anything else of the sort simply because, well, it's the wrong pronoun. In addition, if mothers are frustrated that their children aren't responding w/ "thank you" they may need to look at their expectation because it's very likely that if the mother is waiting for that expression of gratitude, the child may also have a "me-first" attitude, hence the reason he/she does not say "thank you." It's not being modeled in the parent.

If we're waiting for our moment of gratitude from another we're waiting for the wrong thing. We have to be willing to humble ourselves to say, "Jesus, You are the one who raised this child and You are the one who deserves all the glory." It's when we do this that we will truly set the example of how we should live not only for the young children, but for the adult children as well. The responsibility of mothers is never complete. God holds me responsible to maintain humility in allowing Him to be the only one glorified, truly.

I have two grown daughters, and have had that frozen peas moment with them both--in fact, with my younger daughter, the bold, rebellious one, I have had more than one frozen peas moment! I can remember telling my younger one several times during the rebellious years that I hoped she had a daughter just like her when she becomes a mom. Now that she is a mom, I hope she doesn't face the hurt and rebellion that I did, but her daughter is sooooo very much like her!! Her dad and I divorced when she was in middle school, I think the worst time for a girl, and he did some really stupid things that tore at their relationship. He now has somewhat patched things up between them, but the scars are still there.

But I would go through all those troubling times with both of my daughters again to have the relationship I have now with them!! They are the second best things that ever happened in my life (my salvation was first!)

I have two grown daughters, and have had that frozen peas moment with them both--in fact, with my younger daughter, the bold, rebellious one, I have had more than one frozen peas moment! I can remember telling my younger one several times during the rebellious years that I hoped she had a daughter just like her when she becomes a mom. Now that she is a mom, I hope she doesn't face the hurt and rebellion that I did, but her daughter is sooooo very much like her!! Her dad and I divorced when she was in middle school, I think the worst time for a girl, and he did some really stupid things that tore at their relationship. He now has somewhat patched things up between them, but the scars are still there.

But I would go through all those troubling times with both of my daughters again to have the relationship I have now with them!! They are the second best things that ever happened in my life (my salvation was first!)

As I read my heart aches as I can identify myself with the struggles and pain. My 16 yr old son is sitting for his O level exams this October but he is putting very little effort in his studies. He shouts back when I talk to him, he yells at me when I give him instructions or inquiries about his programmes. He is rude and disrespectful. It hurts deeply. He has been attending church since he was a kid. Serves in the Youth Group as a drummer.

My daughter is 15. She could be better in many ways. She loves God but yells at me and just don't see the need to help me out in some ways like housework,
taking things from car, picking up her things, etc.....

I am a working mum. I am am stressed out at work and to come back to more stress is something I can't really take
anymore.

Thank you for this...I really needed to read this. My Mom (who actually told me about this site) passed away on June 20th.

Thank you so much.

mothers are the best gift given to us by God.on behalf of all the daugthers that have never appreciated there mom,i say mom u are all wonderful and we are proud of u,and maybe we do appreciate u but dont know the important of communicate it to u.

Thanks all of you moms who sent comments.im one of the daughters who have never a frozen peas with my mother,now i have learnt it from here & very soon i want to write a letter to both my parents thanking them.I wish they live near me actually i would do that right away.

May God bless all of you for this wonderful moment to me.

I have a son who is 26 and a father. He and I get along great, even though I have moved from Iowa to Sweden. I also have a son who is 25, and has not talked to me since he got married 2 years ago. I was broke, it took me 3 years to get disability, and could not afford to fly back or stay in a hotel. I pray for a frozen peas moment with him, in the mean time, I am honoring his wishes portrayed in his last email:" We don't care. Leave us alone!". I still get the punched in the heart feeling when I see those words...

I have 5 boys and 6 girls. I have had some frozen peas moments with some of the girls as they were much harder to raise then the boys for me. The boys were always good and never gave me any worries but the girls were something else@@@ But I thank God for each one of them because He has taught each of us thru our relationship.

How timely that I should read this today. I'm 39, have accepted the love of God, forgiven all those who have done me wrong and am generally chilled out about life. All except one thing. No matter how hard I try I can't tell my mum I love her.

We've always had a difficult relationship. And I'm long past the time where I needed to figure out who was to blame. My mum's a good woman who made many sacrifices for her family and I'd be lost without her. But every time I see her the atmosphere's cold.

Anyway, the reason this article is timely is that it's my prayer to God every day that we can openly forgive each other. I know he'll make it happen and I'm sure this is a sign.

Thank you and God bless xxx

I had a frozen peas moment with my daughters, 19 and 22. We were walking on Redondo Beach where my older daughter lives now with her husband. They told me they realized how grateful they were to grow up in a "boring" town. After seeing what it's like in L.A., they finally understood why I raised them in the "boring" suburbs where "nothing happens." They figured out that safety was my main concern and it finally hit them. I had waited for years to hear them say that and thought they would have to have kids of their own before they got it.

Despite all I did wrong in parenting them and for the multiple divorces I went through, this one thing went right and they acknowledged it. It was a very happy moment for me.

My son, 24, is another story. He is hateful toward me and along with his wife has basically turned his back on me. I have cancer and he shows no concern and refuses to see me or let me see my granddaughter.

Pray I'll be able to surrender him and my granddaughter to God, knowing they are in His hands.

yes i do think it is diffrent from a girl to a boy.i do have a daughter from 3o years old and a sun from 17 years old. with my daughters father i m divorced and i lived a long time bymyself with her. things were going fine so well untill she got married to a man which is challous about me even if i do live fare away from them. i can do what i want nothing is right and i am a very modern mother.her husband does everything to split us apart from each other.

my daughter went to univercity and is working as a dolmetscher, her husband lost work and she cried that she has to work so much they rentet a house in the country and ma husband and i and my sun are living in the city

the time she cried over the phone i feld sorry about her but 1 week later everything was forgotten. he is brainwashing her. the time i told her that she is not more her own personality and i would worry about her she hit me ,the first time in my life anyone hit me in myyy life. i did not hit her back,she exciused but i dont know how to handle this situation anymorel she had nice boyfriends untill she got married to that man and everyone of them liked me.

she is married now 5 years and in that time she was maybe at home 1o times.
her husband does everything against me what can hurt me. my sister died and he did not even shake hands to me in that sad time.i did never anything wron to that man in my life. i cal my dhildren baby and darling and his mother never did that to him,maybe thats the reason why he is acting that way to me.

i tried everything but nothing is working out,so can not visite my daughter anymore since the last time what happened i still have a shockl. i do think that she is very unhappy amd she lost controll about what i told her because it is the trueth.

i am sad about it and i do think i have to wait untill she will come in our house,i dont write ,i do sit here and wait what is comming the next. but i am happy and thankful fo god,that he gave me the power that i did not hit her back.i am very happy about that, because i never do hitmy children. so my daughter has to pull the stone in front of her doing, not i.

margit july 2oo7

I don't know why it has always been like this since I am very small, but my mother and I have had a sick relationship eversince.She would throw her trash and complain on every occasion since I know her. Her forced marriage, her parents, any condition she lived in, my father she hated, children she did not want. Oh yes, she wanted one or two at the most.But here I am, the third. A girl and after me again a boy, whom she obviously favored since ever.She said she would have consider abortion after the second but then why the fourth?I was a quiet and almost invisible child. I tried in vain to help hard and work hard for her to maybe love me a little. But oh no, whatever I did , it did not trigger a hint of love in her.She cursed me with words wwwich until today has an effect on my life. She cursed me that no man would ever love me, no one would want me. And being a Christian myself added fire in her destructive attitude towards me.I prayed 25 years for her, and nothing ever changed her.I would love to meet the love of my life, but please, can anyone of you break once and for all the demonic force behind my mothers spirit?I deserve everything a normal woman has. I do not accept her crap anymore. Also, she never wanted to talk or relate to me in a normal way;wich is respect and kind appreciation.
Thanks

Praise the Lord,
for all of our children, I remember as my daughter and son, three years apart. alike but so different. My daughter and I had a good relationship even during those teens, but boy did I have a strong prayer life. On the other hand my son being a late blommer, when he did bloom, boy did I catch it all the mouthy remarks and had to have the last word. I now look at him and his three girls, and especially the 14 y/o I do really feel sorry for him because he is a good dad, but I pray they get through those years and my granddaughter regains her mind back again, realizing she too may have one like her one day. BREAK THE GENERATIONAL CYCLE.

I never got the chance to have a "frozen peas" moment with my mother. When I was a small child, I was very close with my mother, then my parents divorced when I was 7. My mother had to go to work and had never worked in all her marriage (20 years). I had 4 other siblings she had to provide for, she worked day and night. She later became an alcoholic, I assume because of the stress of being a single parent. Well, years later I find myself being a single parent and remembering all of the things I said and did to my mother who was just trying to make ends meet and I didn't understand her alcoholism and was embarrest by her. My mother passed away when I was 30. At the moment I heard of her passing, I fell to my knees and the only thing that could come to my mouth was, "I am sorry". Sorry for the way I treated her, sorry for not forgiving her, sorry for the things that come from my mouth, etc, etc, etc... My daugher who is now 8 never got to meet my mother, but has so many of her characteristics. I always pray that we will stay close and that she knows that I think she is beautiful and creative and smart and so many things that my mother never told me. I am sure she thought them, she just never voiced them. As a Christian I know life is just a breath away and because of the situation with my mother, I have learned to never take a moment for granted.

I had that moment when my daughter was about 21 she is now 26. One day I was telling her something about a cousin and what was going on with her when my daughter said "Thanks mom for all that you did for me." I can remember thinking all those late nights supervising her whereabouts and trying to guide her activities paid off. She's been a great blessing and so have her 3 brothers. I don't know what I did maybe nothing. It was probably all God's doing.

Sadly my frozen peas moment came months before my mum passed away due to cancer.I pray my daughter does not wait that long to see me...she is four years old right now.

I am 29 and must say that I did not realize the love and appreciation I have for my mother until my daughter was born almost three years ago. I looked at my daughter and thought, "wow, my mom loves me this much." I absolutely have given a frozen peas moment, plenty of times. I want my mom to know how much she is loved and that the love she gave to me shaped me into the woman I am now. She is my best friend. I pray that my daughter will feel the same way about me.

My son (age 20) and I are like oil and water. We don't mix. He's quite moody. That part is getting better. Most of the time he thinks I am simple minded and his dad is the cool one. My husband and I adopted our son when he was 11 months old. I was 32 and my husband 37. My son always longed for what he thought he needed--younger parents, a sibling and a dog. We showed him and told him how much he means to us. However, a few months ago, after he had tested our patience beyond our normal limits, he told us that God knew he would have been a challenge for most parents and that he was grateful to God that God chose us to be his parents. It hasn't been easy but we know he loves us as much as we love him. WE all pray alot!

That was a beautiful touching piece, that had spoke to a peice of my heart that i had forgotten about.

my realtionship with my mom is wonderful now, but wasn't always.

She and my dad divorced when i was 11, and i started to rebel and realize that i would only get my way if i moved in with my dad, and she said no at first but i did make her life here on earth hell at that time in our lives and she finally couldn't take it anymore she let me go.

When i was 18 years old, something touched my heart as i sat in my one bedroom apartment all by myself, about my mom, and i wrote her a letter, explaing how sorry i was for everything i put her through and that i loved her, and that it was because of her that i had a glimps of what love is until i met jesus of course.

but from that point on i have treated my mom like the jewel the lord intended for her to be, and she is a very important part of my life, and if i turn out half the mom she was it still would never be enough.

thanks for sharing and to those who are struggeling still with thier children, just remember God created them and lent them to you and he never leaves anything unfinished. so keep leaning on the lord and he will show you and guide you with the preious gifts no matter how hard or bad they seem, the lord knew what he was diong when he lent them to you.]

thanks for reading and god bless

It was not until after my mom's death to cancer that I realized why I did not have a "great fit" with her. I only was prevy to "family news" through siblings--never directly. I was 1 of 3 daughters, 2 sons. My 2 sisters had that "close fit" I longed for. (I loved my mom, wanted to look like her, sound like her--but, I didn't.) After mom died, I went through some pretty heavy grief. Flashbacks and nightmares were only a part of it. I remembered the home I was in for the first 3 years of my life--but, where was mom?As it turns out my grandparents raised me and my twin..for most of that time. These same grandparents were still alive, so I made a trip to see them--I had always had the strongest loving bond with them--but, did not know why. As soon as I heard the reasons, mom and my older sister lived in another state, because she had to work. This was during WWII-- So, that was the reason. How I wish I had known while mom was alive, so we could have had that conversation/connection. I was only able to see her once a year, because I lived 1000 miles away with my husband and 4 children. Later, I realized all the gifts my mom had given me--love of God, music, books, family, prayer, and celebrations. On my last birthday...just before she died, I sent a big bouquet of flowers and thanked her for "her labor of love, from the twins."
I have 3 sons and 1 daughter..and I sought to heal that old relationship with my "only" daughter. She has brought me joy her whole life......she's a mother of 4 and a pastor's wife.

This is awesome! My mother has had two major surgeries in the past year and has lost some of her memory. But we have had several frozen peas moments as she tries to recall the good times of the past and try not to forget the good times that we share now. It's amazing how you just go along to work daily and you feel your mother is going to stay young forever. But then you see your own children getting into their 20's and almost 30. Then you realize, hey...let's have some frozen peas moments before it's too late!

When I was born, I am told, there was great rejoicing because I was a girl. I had 8 brothers and one way older sister. I am the ninth of ten. After about the age of 8, I struggled with my mom. We were poor, she told me that. I was disrespectful, she told me that. She would fly off the handle at a moments notice and I never knew where the handle would strike. No one told me about menapause. No one told me about hormones. No one helped me to understand what was happening and finally when I had children of my own, I could put it into prospective. Yelling one day, the way I was yelled at, telling my children how they make me behave, the Lord told me I had a self control problem. They don't make me do anything, I had the problem. My eyes opened and in the middle of that moment, the world of my mom opened to me and I was able to forgive and to understand. She was controlled by hormones and situations that were not talked about in those days. I could see who she was. She really was a wonderful Christian woman. She prayed me into the Kingdom. She taught Sunday School. She became my best friend and confidante. She died of ovarian cancer 7 years ago and I still want to call her on the phone when something happens. I have learned a lot from her and as my girls have grown and have children, they call me. I think we have that cherished friendship that I had but at a much younger age. God is all about relationships and honoring one another. Especially your family and the family of God.

I'VE HAD MANY FROZEN PEA MOMENTS WITH MY MOM I TOLD HER THAT I WAS SORRY FOR WHAT I PUT HER THROUGH AS A TEENAGER AND EVEN AS A YOUNG ADULT. I HAVE AN 18 YEAR OLD SON THAT HAS PUT ME THROUGH THE WRINGER AND THEN SOME HE WAS DIAGNOSED WITH ADHD AND WHEN HE WAS SIX YEARS OLD I DIVORCED HIS FATHER . WHICH WAS A VERY BITTER DIVORCE MY SON WAS CAUGHT IN THE MIDDLE I TAKE FULL RESPONSIBLITY FOR HOW HE TURNED OUT I DONE THE BEST I COULD IN RAISING HIM I'VE BEEN A CHRISTIAN ALL MY LIFE AND I HAVE NEVER KNOWN WHAT IT WAS LIKE NOT TO HAVE JESUS IN MY HEART I'VE GONE THROUGH ALOT OF VALLEYS AND ALSO BEEN ON SOME MOUNTAINS TOO. I BEEN MARRIED TO A WONDERFUL MAN FOR TEN YEARS WHO IS MY BEST FRIEND. GOD HAS TRULY BLESSED ME.

Believe it or not, I had a moment like that with my 9 yo step-son. Well, sort of. He was gone for a couple of weeks to visit his mom. I was cleaning out his room with my husband and was looking over a note I saw he had written. In his poor spelling he wrote "I love dad. I hope he never leaves. I love Mom. I hope she never leaves. I love Dawn. I hope she never leaves." Now, that may not be much, but he's our more sassy child. (We have 5 total.) My heart melted to see he wrote out that he loves me. I am grateful God brought me into his life. I am grateful for my 3 sons-by-another-mother and the 2 kids I gave birth to.

It means almost a little more to hear your step children indicate love and affection and appreciation to you. I am blessed.

I wish I would of had that frozen peas moment with my mom. We had a lot of struggles in our lives and I am sure in the last couple of years of her life she knew how very much I loved and respected her. But I never told her how sorry I was for the heartache I caused her through the years and I will always regret that. If your mom is still with you.... tell her now. Tomorrow could be too late. God Bless

What about a "frozen peas" moment for daughters who were mistreated and abused-- physically and emotionally-- by their mothers? What about for those of us who don't get to have that healthy or even marginally safe relationship? How hard is it for us to "honor our mother" without putting ourselves in emotional danger as an adult?

MY DAUGHTER, NOW 18 AND I HAVE SEVERAL GOOD 'FROZEN PEA'MOMENTS, HER DAD & I DIVORCED WHEN SHE WAS 3, AND HE LEFT NVR TO RETURN. WE ARE VERY CLOSE, SHE CONSTANTLY GIVES ME CARDS AND EMAILS TELLING ME I AM HER ROLE MODEL AND ENCOURAGES ME TO KEEP MY HEAD UP EVEN WHEN TIMES GET BAD. SHE SAYS I AM STRONG, WHICH I FEEL IM NOT. THANKS TO PRAYER I GET BY! I ONLY WISH I COULD HAVE THAT WITH MY OWN MOTHER, I TRY BUT IT NVR WORKS, MOTHER IS COLD TO ME. I AM SO THANKFUL TO GOD THAT MY DAUGHTER AND ME ARE SO CLOSE, I HOPE WE WILL ALWAYS BE THAT WAY!PTL

I say, those frozen peas moments r a blessing from the LORd. I'm still waiting 4
a frozen peas moment with my mother. I
haven't seen her since I was 5, i am now
49. I have however had those with my own girls. one practickly got down on her
knees in a store and asked me 2 4give her
for all the wrong she may have done towards me. all i could do is cry, as i have lived with so many regrets in raising them
as a women of the world, but now for over15 yrs iam praising HIs Name. and hoping for all the children to be saved and freed from generational curses on both sides of family. Forgive 2day as no man knows what the day will bring forth.
look up for your redemption draws nigh

I was a really bad teenager. I said some really mean and hateful things to my mother that still make me wince. I think that she was ready to put me in foster care! (at least my Dad was) I just thank God that we worked our way through those years and the resentment that I had bottled up inside me. Today we have an incredible friendship that I wouldn't trade for all of the riches in the world. Everytime I see her we have a frozen peas moment. I am just so thankful for the woman that my mother is and it's only now that I appreciate all that she did for me in the past.

Nancy,
I just read my Today's Christian Woman and saw your name. WOW I'm thrilled for you. And I always love to read what you write. Yes, Sissy is special and we do have our moments, but boys are hard to connect with also. I long for the days when they were home and I was their world. Now they are far away and I have trouble fitting into their life. Maybe God will give Rich and Drew and I a "frozen pea moment". Bless you, Ellen

I can relate to so much of this. I found this because I was looking on line for some kind of Godly advice on dealing with my 22 year old daughter who still lives with me. Her father and I were divorced because of his alcholizm and the resulting verbal abuse and affairs. She was only 2. I never dreamed I would divorce. I never went into it with that ever being an option. I come from a christian home and I had standards, goals and dreams for my future that did not turn out the way God or I planned. However, 2 short years later I married a wonderfully loving christian man and he has helped me raise my kids.

My daughter has never been able to establish a relationship with her biological father. He never helped. He doted on my son and praised him but my daughter he barely aknowledges. When she was 18 we went through some horrible things with her that destroyed the trust in our relationship. She moved out and moved in with her dad thinking the grass would be greener. Things between them only got worse and after a time of restoration and forgiveness with us, she came home after 2 years. She showed so much growth and we were so happy. In the last few months I have seen glimpses of the troubled times and it is scarring me. She resents her brother, she is secretive, she hates her dad and she is very disrespectful to her step father and me. She really needs a Godly man and friend in her life. Please pray for all of us. God bless all of you who live with regrets and all of you who are hurting. And God bless everyone of you who have had a frozen peas moment with someone who loves you.

I wish only I could have a frozen peas moment. I am struggling with forgiving my mother for what I feel she should of done for me as a child and an adult. I just dont know how to, especially when I dont even think she is sorry.